The Friend Crush

It is hard to imagine life without a good, dear friend.

You feel jealous when they go on dates. You’re oversensitive because they are seeing a jerk. Your feelings grow into feelings of attraction. You start desire for something more than friendship. These describe when your relationship may have developed into a “friend crush.”

But don’t fret. All good relationships start with friendship.

Sadly, friends are often taken for granted. The word “friend” rolls off the tongue as if we expect it. Friends unexpectedly come in and out of our lives almost weekly.

According to the Webster’s Dictionary, a friend is “a preferred companion who is attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard.” The connection between friends bolstered with true feelings makes long lasting relationships, and yes, even love.

So how do you let love open the door to the heart of your crush?

First, begin being a good friend. Doing acts of friendship, big or small, counts most in a friendship. Sacrificing your time shows you care for your special someone. Let your crush see that you honestly care.

Second, communicate efficiently. We live in a world of endless chat and text messages, and quality communication is becoming less common. As a true friend, showing you’re willing to communicate is crucial.

A good example is listening. Listen not only to what is said, but what is omitted. Your crush needs to know that you care. Listen to them carefully and you will stand out above the rest.

Third, keep communication lines open as much as possible. This is so important. Life can change in a blink of an eye. Being the first there for your crush in a time of need might be exactly what they need to see as more than a friend.

Above all, cherish your friendship sincerely. Understand there will be challenging times when your friendship is tested. Challenges let you know if your friendship is really a true one.

If all else fails, follow Anna Cummins’ advice. “Do not save your loving speeches for your friends till they are dead; do not write them on their tombstones, speak them rather now instead.”