Him Vs. Her: “I like you…now what?”

Him vs. Her is a column that gives the same topic to both a male and female writer and lets them share their own views. 

Her 

by Kelly Cannon

So you’ve realized you like a girl. Congratulations. I’m sure she’s a lovely young woman. Now the only question in your mind is, “What do I do now?” It’s really simple: ask her out on the date and when the time is right, tell her how you feel.

As you may know, women are, in general, fairly perceptive creatures. If you have been spending time with her, chances are she already has inkling about how you feel. The only way to see if your crush can blossom into something more is to tell her how you feel.

I know this is way easier said than done and there is a chance she may not return your affections. But how do you know if you don’t try? It’s like the song, “On Your Porch” by one of my favorite bands, The Format: “And if I fail, well then I fail but I gave it a shot.”

The key is to choose your wording in advance. Think out how you’re going to tell her. Run it by your friends who are girls and get their reactions. And if I may recommend a phrasing, go this route. Find a moment where both of you are relaxed. Get her attention by saying her name then tell her that you think she’s awesome. Add in a compliment very specific to her, such as she has a great laugh or she’s so sweet to people. Then tell her that you really like her and would like to spend more time getting to know her.

Now, there is a chance that there will be an awkward pause from her. Do not panic. You may have caught her off guard and she needs a moment to collect her thoughts. And no matter what she says, at least you let her know how you felt.

 

Him

by Nate Evans

Girls, you know that feeling when a guy asks you out? Whether he’s your dreamboat or not, you’re flattered. Giddy, even. We feel that way when you show us how you feel. However, that word, show, can be dicey. We don’t pick up on subtle elbow rubs and the direction your chair faces. You just need to tell us.

Understandably, that’s a big undertaking. What if you like me, and I don’t like you?  Then you’ll be hurt and vow to never love again. All I can say is this: when it comes to love, getting hurt now and then is the cost of doing business. I still remember Emily T. crushing my heart in 6th grade. But just because I might not return your affection is no reason not to try.

My quintessential boy-girl conversation would go something like this:

Girl: Hey Nate. I’m really attracted to you and would like to go out with you sometime.

Me: Really? Wow. Okay, cool! Want to go see Owl City with me and feed the ducks afterwards? They’re my favorite animal.

Girl: That sounds really fun; I’d love to!

Me: Awesome! I’ll come pick you up at 6.

If you sit around waiting for a guy to get a hint or to return your affections, you could be waiting a while. What if guys sat around waiting for you to ask them out?

If a woman tells me she’s interested in me, I know right off the bat that she’s assertive, has self-esteem, and goes after what she wants. Plus, she had the ovaries to go right up to a man and admit her personal feelings. That’s quite the woman. I’d better ask her out.